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July 4, 2010

WallBuilders – Issues and Articles – Declaration of American Values

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WallBuilders – Issues and Articles – Declaration of American Values

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February 28, 2010

Printing a Book, Old School

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February 21, 2010

20 Great Reasons to Homeschoool

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February 14, 2010

The Myth of the Divine Matchmaker

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By Jason DulleMay 24, 2004
A recent Big Question concerned the way in which readers defined “soul mates.” As expected many of the responses reflected the idea that there is one person out there personally created for us by God. While not directly expressed, those who believe that often advance a particular method for finding this “one” as well—diligently seeking the Lord through prayer, and being sensitive to His voice as communicated through personal feelings or signs.
As romantic and spiritual as this may sound, upon further examination it’s found to be unreasonable, unbiblical, and impractical.
UnreasonableWhen it comes to marriage there is no such a thing as “the one.” Soul mates do not exist as such. That this is so becomes immediately apparent when we consider the idea in practice. If God has destined one particular mate for every person throughout time, what would happen if just one person wasn’t “listening to God’s voice” and chose the wrong mate? It would have a domino effect that would prohibit anyone in future generations from being able to marry their soul mate. Let me illustrate.
David’s soul mate is Mary. David, however, marries Jane because He failed to hear the voice of God telling Him to wait until Mary comes along. What does Mary do, then? She has to marry someone other than her soul mate. She marries Glenn. But Glenn was soul mate to Brenda. Now that Brenda’s soul mate has married someone else, she is forced to marry Roger. Roger’s soul mate, Linda, is forced to marry someone else’s soul mate. The circle widens ad infinitum until in encompasses every living person within several generations.1
This logical quandary should lead us to abandon the idea of “the one” altogether. If the lack of rationality supporting this idea is not enough, however, let us examine the Biblical data to see if we find something different there.
UnbiblicalFrankly, there is no Biblical evidence for the notion of soul mates. Unlike most fictitious views concerning God’s design and will for mankind, the idea of soul mates is not even based off of a misreading of Scripture. In the absence of a Biblical basis, it becomes difficult to offer a Biblical critique. The only way to do so is to examine what the Bible does say concerning the topic, and then show how this is inconsistent with the belief being passed off as Christian. Because I will do this below, here I will simply challenge those holding to the soul mate idea to provide a single passage of Scripture that either implicitly or explicitly teaches this idea.
I am confident that no such verse will be provided because no such verse exists. Sure, we find an example or two in which God plays matchmaker at human request, but there is no indication that the individuals would have been out of the will of God had they married someone else, nor is there any indication that this is the divine pattern for finding a marriage partner.2
Scripture actually describes many different ways in which people obtained a spouse, but never proscribes any of them as the divine method of mate selection:3
■ Jacob, for example, worked 14 years to obtain his wife Rachel.■ The children of Benjamin had a unique method of obtaining wives: they hid in bushes while foreign women danced, then at just the right moment ran out and kidnapped them, taking them for wives.
I don’t hear anyone using these passages as the Biblical model for finding a marriage partner!
To choose one instance of how one individual came to find their spouse as the Biblical norm, to the exclusion of all other methods, is arbitrary, and an example of poor Biblical interpretation. There is simply no Biblical authority to hold up one example over the other as the preferred method, yet alone the norm.
ImpracticalI have known many sincere individuals who have experienced heartache due to this myth. Some of these individuals have passed up many possible mates because they just did not feel that (s)he was the one, or because God failed to give them the signs they were expecting to receive when they had stumbled upon their soul mate. Years later they find themselves alone and full of bitterness over the hand that “God” has dealt them. “How could it be?” they ask. “I thought God promised me a soul mate?”
Others married their spouse because they just knew that they knew that they knew that they were Mr(s). Right. The way they felt when in the presence of this person was so different from the feeling with all the others that it must be God’s will. Then there are those who had all the “confirmations” that they were supposed to marry so and so:
■ They prayed that God would let the phone ring three times before their newfound love picked up, and this would be a confirmation that they were to be married…and it did.
■ They prayed that if it was God’s will for them to marry that they would turn the radio to a certain station and there would be a song about marriage…and there was.
■ They were driving down the road wondering if they should marry this person when (lo and behold!) they see a car just up ahead with a sign on the back: Just Married. This must be God! So they marry.
Years later, however, when Mr(s) Right fails to exhibit the same characteristics (s)he did in the beginning of the relationship, or when (s)he has had an affair or leaves the faith, or when (s)he files for divorce, they are left wondering what happened to their match made in heaven. Did God lead them astray? Were they not spiritual enough to discern the signs God was giving them? Confusion and misery consume them as their ideal relationship vanishes before their eyes.
Can the notion of soul mates hurt people? Yes, it can, and it does.
True Biblical TeachingRather than trying to touch on everything the Bible has to say about marriage I will focus exclusively on I Corinthians 7, the most extensive passage dealing with the issue of marriage and mate-selection.
As unspiritual as this may sound Paul never suggested that we should pray about who God wants us to marry,4 nor that God is in the soul mate matchmaking business. Ironically, the question Paul asked was not, “Who should you marry?,” but, “Should you marry at all?” If I could sum up Paul’s argument in common vernacular, he said, “Here’s the deal. If you are single you can better serve the Lord, but you will have to live with the sexual frustration that accompanies the celibate life. If you are married, you will be sexually fulfilled, but your spouse will be a distraction from serving the Lord. Oh yeah, if you choose to marry you cannot divorce. It’s until death do you part. There’s the pros and cons, now make your choice.” He even gave his own opinion on the matter. His wise advice was based on spiritual expediency (I Corinthians 7:20-21, 28, 29-31, 32, 40, exemplified and summarized in verse 35).
Paul never appealed to prayer, nor did he tell the Corinthians to let the Lord make their decision for them. He never hinted at the notion of soul mates, nor did he teach that God will confirm for us who we are supposed to marry. Why? It’s because the concepts of soul mates and divine confirmations are mere inventions of Western romanticism mixed with spiritual aspirations, not Biblical teaching.
The following is a list of the Biblical principles (with verse numbers) set forth by Paul concerning our choice to marry, and by implication our choice concerning who to marry:
1. Do what is good and profitable (1, 8, 26)2. Do that which leads to peace (15)3. Do what helps you best keep God’s commandments (19)4. Do what causes the least trouble (28)5. Do what makes the best use of time (29)6. Do what makes you most free of external concerns (33)7. Do that which leads to undistracted devotion to Christ (35)8. Do what promotes personal happiness (40)
Pay particular notice to the following verses:
■ “concerning virgins…we have received no command of the Lord” (I Corinthians 7:25).
■ “if you marry you have not sinned” (I Corinthians 7:28).
■ “let him do what he wishes” (I Corinthians 7:36).
■ “she is at liberty to be married to whom she wishes” (I Corinthians 7:39).
These verses make it clear that the choice to marry, and the choice of who to marry are personal choices, not something God has predetermined.
The Only QualifierWe are not obliged to marry at all, yet alone marry a particular individual. As Paul declared, we can marry whom we wish, so long as they are in the Lord (I Corinthians 7:39). That is his only qualifier. So not only do we fail to find the idea of soul mates in this passage, but the perceived method of finding our mate (receiving signs from God) is necessarily nullified.
From the Biblical data we must conclude that while God cares about what type of person we marry, He does not have a specific will on who it is that we marry. As long as the individual falls within the sphere of certain guidelines He has set forth in His Word concerning mate selection, the choice on who to marry is up to us.
Only Biblical CriteriaThere are only two Biblical criteria for mate selection. First, our mate must be someone of the opposite sex (Romans 1:27). This narrows our choice to 3 billion people. Secondly, we must marry someone of like precious faith (I Corinthians 7:39; II Corinthians 6:14). This narrows our selection down to about 8 million people. Here is where explicit Biblical teaching ends, and Biblical principles and commonsense pick up.
We cannot marry those we have never come into contact with, narrowing our choice to several hundred or several thousand people. To choose from among this group we must employ wisdom—Do we get along? Do we compliment one another? Do our families and elders approve of the relationship?
The next level of consideration is spiritual expediency—Will this individual bring me closer to God? Will they support me in the exercising of my spiritual gifts? Will they unnecessarily distract me from the work of the Lord?
The final level of consideration is personal preference—Blonde? Brunette? Caucasian? Latin? Family Background? Money Management? Neat or Messy? Make no mistake about it…these things are quite important.5
But God Could…The common objection at this point is to argue that God could reveal our mate to us through some sort of sign or feeling. I agree. Yes, God could reveal our ideal mate to us through some feeling, impression, or sign, but the question here is not what God can or cannot do. He can do anything He wants. The question is, What does the Bible teach about making decisions about our marital partner? Do we have any reason to believe that as a matter of course God both determines and reveals to us a specific person for marriage? No.
For those of us who claim to base our beliefs and practices on the Bible, then, we have no other choice but to abandon the idea that there is only one person in this world we can marry in the will of God, and that He will reveal this individual to us through some sort of feeling or sign.
So Stop It Already!The Biblical, rational, and experiential evidence speak in one accord against the myth of the divine matchmaker. Rather than asking who we should marry the Bible asks if we should marry. Rather than teaching that God will reveal “the one,” the Bible teaches that the decision concerning who we marry is a personal choice informed by wisdom. As lovely as the notion of soul mates may be, and as spiritual as the method for finding that soul may sound, neither are Biblical concepts and thus both must be dismissed by those whose authority for faith and practice is Scripture.
God is not in the matchmaking business. He has set forth some general guidelines in His Word concerning marriage and mate-selection, but has given us the freedom to choose who we marry within those guidelines. So long as our mate selection is within the moral parameters of Scripture and informed by wisdom, spiritual expediency, and in consideration of personal preferences, we can be assured that our choice is in the will of God.
Chances are good that in our lifetime we will meet several individuals with whom we could establish a life-long, meaningful, and happy marriage, all of whom would be pleasing to God. If, when, and who we marry is a decision God has left to us to make in a responsible and wise manner.
With Scripture as our guide we must confess that there is no room at the inn for soul mates. Reason and experience follow suit in posting their own “no vacancies” sign. The myth of the divine matchmaker is just one more Christian fairytale that’s made its way into mainstream Christian culture. As appealing as the myth may be to our romantic and spiritual nature, Scripture, not popular belief or fairy tale, must be our guide for mate selection.

© 2004, Jason Dulle
Jason Dulle has been happily married for three months. He and his wife met at a Barnes and Noble in sunny California. The Lord confirmed that she was the one when Jason discovered that they were both reading the same book. From that moment on Jason knew he had found his soul mate. Just kidding!
1. This situation is further complicated in that some men take more than one wife, and some people marry more than once. And let’s not forget about the problem of the children born to non-soul mates. These children weren’t even supposed to exist. Who are they supposed to marry?
2. I am thinking of the occasion in which God gave a sign to Abraham’s servant that he was to choose Rebekah as Isaac’s wife (Genesis 24). Even if one wishes to argue that in this particular instance the Lord specifically wanted Rebekah as Isaac’s wife, one would need to consider the fact that God was preparing the lineage of the Messiah before they extrapolate any implications for mate selection from this event. The special nature of the circumstances would justify a special act of God.
3. Many misunderstand the difference between a description and a prescription. The former simply describes the way things are; the latter prescribes the way things should be. It is a mistake to extrapolate a prescription from mere description (in philosophy this is called the is-ought fallacy). There are many historical happenings recorded/described in the Bible that we should not, or need not do. The only way we are justified in mimicking some act as recorded in Scripture is if Scripture itself makes it clear that the action described is being described for prescriptive reasons. If the Bible is not clear that we ought to mimic the acts described, or expect the results someone else received, we are not justified in concluding that we are. If we do not carefully distinguish between the descriptive and prescriptive aspects of Scripture we will find ourselves creating doctrines and practices that are foreign to the very text from which they are supposedly derived.
4. This is not to say that prayer has no role in mate selection. Indeed, prayer is essential in the process. What this is to say is that the reason for which we pray during the mate selection process is often uninformed by Scripture. Usually we pray so God can tell us whether or not (s)he is “the one.” This sort of prayer finds no basis in Scripture. Scripture does advocate praying for wisdom (James 1:5), however, and wisdom is essential in the mate selection process.
5. To some, this last criteria may sound the most “unspiritual” because they have this sadomasochistic view of God’s will. For them God’s will must always be opposed to their will. If they are attracted to blondes God’s will, for them, must surely be a brunette. If they want somebody who is really “hot,” God must want them to marry someone they consider a little on the ugly side. This is a distorted picture of God’s will. God’s will is not that we are miserable, or that we never get what we want, but that we receive the desires of our heart so long as they are within His moral perimeters. Clearly there is nothing immoral about preferring brunettes to blondes!

February 11, 2010

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January 23, 2010

The Fall of the Family: The Chanting of the Children

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By James Robison

Finally, the family is in trouble because the children are chanting. The children are chanting on the streets, but in a ven more universal way are chanting with their lifestyle. Youth are screaming for attention- from the music they listen to down to the way out clothes they wear.

While many parents seek to give their children the “things we never had” the “thing” children of the “now generation” long for is pure love. That’s the one thing most of them never had.

There is a trend in America to abolish all moral absolutes. When moral absolutes are abolished, we can wave good-bye to the family. Children must be taught a solid distinct moral code of right and wrong. Although many fundamentalist groups are sharply criticized for having a list of no-no’s that prohibit certain forms of music,movies, hairstyles,etc.; it might be said that it is far better to label a “right” as “wrong” than to label a “wrong” as “right” as is being done in American society today.

As long as the men melt, the women wander, and the children chant, the very fiber of the family will cotinue to degenerate. The future of the family is the future of our society, and we must make the strengthening of the family our formost priority. The hope for the family does not lie in “how-to” books, seminars, or psychological counseling. Family life in America is being dangled over the very depths of destruction by the thinnest of threads, and will be saved only as each individual member of each individual family lets the very God who planned, prepared, produced, and preserved the family be the God of their role in the family. God help us keep the family!

Robison, James. “The Fall of the Family.” Life’s Answer October 1977: 1-2.

January 9, 2010

The Fall of the Family: Melting of the Men

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by James Robison

For one thing, men are no longer the “head of the house.” The so-called “women’s liberation movement” is not the cause, but rather the result of men melting away from their God-given responsibility as the “king of their castle.”

Ephesians 5:25 explicitly states that a husband is to love his wife in the same manner as Christ himself for her. The modern American male either has no earthly idea of the way in which Christ loved His Church, or else is totally disobedient to the word of God. Jesus did not come to earth to be waited on hand and foot, but rather to demonstrate the fine art of waiting on others hand and foot (Mark 10:45). And while it is true that many in the New Testament did serve Jesus, it was always in response to His initiating love.

A husband must put his wife before his work, his hunting trips, his “important meetings,” his tinkering with the car, or even before the abundance of church activities that he may be engaging in. Serving the church is no virtue if one is not first and foremost serving his wife. The idea that one “bust a gut for God, (pardon the expression) and He’ll take care of my wife” is neither Biblical nor sane.

Men are also melting from a responsibility as fathers. The faithless fathers of America were meant to be spiritual leaders- both in the home and in the church. And if one wonders why women are now being ordained as deacons and even preachers in conservative churches, the answer is that the “prayerless Papa’s” of America have cowered in the corner and have offered no Godly leadership in the home or in the church. When leadership in the church is in the hands of women, you can bet your copy of Ms. Magazine that at home the only time “he” puts his foot down is when “she” says “he” can.

Many of these fearless fathers whose blood boils when they remember the day prayer was outlawed in school are cold-blooded against instituting prayer at home. Yet, nowhere in God’s Word has the responsibility of teaching our children things of God been delegated to the goverment or our public schools. But there is a crystal clear Biblical direction that God does intend for parents to “train up a child in the way he should go” at home.
Robison, James. “The Fall of the Family.” Life’s Answer October 1977: 1-2.

January 2, 2010

The Fall of the Family: Introduction

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by James Robison

The family is the very foundation of any society. Historically, when the family fails the society fails. The great Roman Empire was not toppled by invading armies, but was destroyed from within by the decay of the family. Gibbon’s classic, “The Decline and Fall of the Roman Empire” lists the “rapid increase in divorce in the home” and “undermining the sancity and dignity of the home” as 2 major reasons for the collapse of the Roman Empire. If the forces of darkness can destroy the family, they will have destroyed the very foundation on which any sane civilization sits.

If the above is true, them America is in serious trouble. The divorce rate is rapidly approaching the 50% mark in America (1 million couples were divorced last year), and the practice of living together without being married has increased 5 fold among persons under 45 in the past 6 years alone. Dr. Frederick Humphrey, President of America Ass’n of Marriage and Family Counselors, says that one half of the cases counselors deal with involve adultry. The Portland, Oregon, Housing Authority now allows unmarried couples to apply for subsidized housing. And a recent survey by Redbook Magazine revealed that 9 out of 10 women surveyed indicated they had had premartial sexual relationships.

The family structure is not the result of man’s wisdom, but is a God-designed institution through which life is to exist. God’s first human creations, Adam and Eve, were put together as a family. Even the very son of God, Jesus, was born into the context of a family. And as Gos inspired the writing of His word, he chose the family structure as an illustration of the relationship between Christ and His Church. Why then, is the family failing to stand firm against the threatening alternatives?

Robison, James. “The Fall of the Family.” Life’s Answer October 1977: 1-2.

December 25, 2009

WallBuilders – Issues and Articles – Christmas With the Presidents

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December 17, 2009

Amy Elizabeth Ermyntrude Annie

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Amy Elizabeth Ermyntrude Annie
Went to the country to visit her Grannie;

Learnt to churn butter and learnt to make cheese,
Learnt to milk cows and take honey from bees;

Learnt to spice roseleaves and learnt to cure ham,
Learnt to make cider and black-currant jam.

When she came home she could not settle down,
Said there was nothing to do in the town.

Nothing to do there and nothing to see:
Life was all shopping and afternoon tea!

Amy Elizabeth Ermyntrude Annie
Ran away back to the country and Grannie!

~ By Queenie Scott-Hoppper~

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